Bobbie Jo Justice
Columbus, Ohio
February 6, 2015
Thank you, your site has come in handy numerous times.
I have been working as a volunteer on a transgender crisis hotline, (translifeline.org) I have used your site as a reference numerous times for transgender people that are dealing with unsupportive families.
Tina
Washington
December 8, 2014
I just watched your movie on Netflix. I am heterosexual but I have always supported gay rights. Besides for voting for gay marriage in my state I’ve done nothing to challenge opposing views since the issue does not impact my every day life. This movie made be realize that it’s up to all of us, not just the LGBT community, to make a change. Thank you for your exceptional courage in telling your story.
Rae O’Neill
Perth, Western Australia
October 7, 2014
Mary Lou. I don’t think I’ve ever felt so moved as I did when I heard your story. My mum is my best friend.
I have always had a life plan to build a space that gay people can go to when family and friends disown them for being who they are. I want a place they can live or go to to feel safe…to feel loved. I’ve would love to (with your blessing of course) call my space the Anna Louise Wakefield Safe Place. This is a very long term goal and passion but I know I’ll never forget your story. Thank you x
Jorge Vidal
New York
April 30, 2014
Thank you for your courage. As a Latino gay man, I was told that I was not good enough because I was gay. When my mother accepted me fully and say yes to all of me, I realized that there was nothing in the world that matter. Her love and support has been the greatest blessing in my life. Mary, please know that you have many gay sons and daughters in the world that love you and are grateful for your work
Ashh
New York
April 5, 2014
It is very nice to see a parent doing the work you do. As a transgender person I love seeing people like yourself educating people about this community I wish my mother did the same. I was disowned when I came out as transgender thank you very much for the work you do.
Jo
Birmingham, England
July 24, 2013
I just wanted to thank you for being a true inspiration. To be so open about your views past AND present, rather than just high-lighting the good that you do today is a marvellous thing.
Being outcast from your own family will always be difficult (I am 32, it doesn’t get any easier) but to know that the world has at least one Mary Lou Wallner makes it seem that little bit better.
I applaud you for not sitting back and thinking of the "if only" thoughts but actually continuing to fight to help other people in their struggles. To help one person cope or see things from a different view is an amazing thing and I am sure your story has opened many eyes around the world.
Thank you.
Elizabeth
michigan
April 20, 2013
I Will pray for you.
Catherine Gearhart
Austin, TX
January 8, 2013
I was deeply affected by your particular story in "The Bible Tells Me So". I am a heterosexual woman but have always been sensitive to LGBT issues so I guess that makes me a liberal. As a mother myself, I have a very hard time comprehending how a parent could reject their child. Children are gifts from God. Of course, I was not raised in a fundamentalist church either. You have learned from your past and have turned it into a beautiful thing. The world needs more people like you.
liane smith
sw, uk
September 7, 2012
O saviour then in all my need be near to me and let my soul by steadfast faith find a life and heaven in thee could we but climb where moses stood and view the landscape oer. Not jordans streamm nor deaths cold flood should fight us from the shore
Marcela Venzccelo
Chicago, IL
April 27, 2012
You are an inspiration. I am sorry that your enlightenment came at such a high personal cost. Sadly, your story is very reminiscent of so many other families. I too grew up in a very strict & religiously stringent household where everything & everyone that was different was denounced. However my mother never could’ve predicted just how obstinate her three daughters would grow up to be. And I am very grateful that we have persisted against what others deem to be "normal". Whether that be race, fashion, political or religious views, or sexual orientation. That nest of security allowed my niece to come out to us, unafraid, knowing full well that her family would continue to love & defend her. And our family has become an emotional safe haven for her friends who are not as fortunate as my niece. I congratulate you for your spirit & hope your story reaches & helps to positively impact other families.
Wanda Velez
San Juan, Puerto Rico
April 25, 2012
I just saw The Bible Tells me so and I was broken hearted by your story. I am SO SORRY for the loss of your daughter. I am not gay and i appreciate so much that you have turned a tragedy to create awareness for so many! God bless you….keep going….always teaching love and acceptance! i suggest you make a facebook page…many millions will be reached with your positive message!
Kristi Estep
Miamisburg, Ohio
April 14, 2012
I just finished watching For the Bible tells me so on netflix. Thank you so much for all you do. You have inspired me as well as my husband. We love your message and we support all you stand for. Simply, Thank You for speaking out and doing so much.
Sandy Mackovich
San Francisco
January 28, 2012
Thank you Mary Lou
Nicki
January 17, 2012
I am watching the For The Bible Tells Me So documentary on Netflix, and your story is so emotional. I applaud you for opening your mind and heart, but am heartbroken at the depths it took. Im sure everything you do is in honor of your daughter, and for that, the lives you touch because of that.are priceless! GOD BLESS you
Rubén Chavarría
Costa Rica
September 17, 2011
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I particulary dont take part in the idea of god, but I sure appreciate the work that people like you do towards the well being of EVERYone. Please never let that inner motivation go out, cuz u are a motivation for so many.
Bobbi
Maple Grove, MN
September 11, 2011
Thank you. I first became aware of your life story in “For the Bible Tells Me So”. If you’ve written a book, i want to read it. Thanks for being so open and honest. /hugs
Lisa
Jonesboro, AR
September 2, 2011
Thank you so much for the amazing work you do, the strength you show, and the bravery you are sharing with the world!!
Jackie Howe
Round Rock, Texas
July 24, 2011
Thank you so much for doing what you do. I hope that with the help of your story and site, my Mother will see me in a different light and not struggle so much with me. Sending love and prayers your way in all you do. God Bless, Jackie
Gretchen
Kingsville, Texas
July 23, 2011
I saw your story in the documentary “For the Bible Tells Me So.” I think you are an amazingly courageous mother, a beautiful Christian, and I admire your dedication to understanding your daughter’s plight. I am not homosexual, but after years of soul searching, I have found that my beliefs align with more with Buddhist teachings than the Christian teachings I have experienced. I hid this from my family for a decade. Since I have “come out” as a non-lutheran, non-Christian, I have been alienated from my family for my beliefs. Your story gave me hope, not only for families of homosexuals, but for all families who discriminate against other family members as a result of extreme Christian “values.” All they need to do is ask themselves “WWJD?” Always hoping their hearts will open back up for me. Thank you for sharing your story! Respectfully, Gretchen
karen johnson
denison, tx
July 22, 2011
just saw your website. great job.
Mary
New Mexico
July 13, 2011
Your courage and resolve are inspirational. I contemplated suicide when my family disowned me but somehow was spared. And, now I am blessed with a loving and accepting relationship with my family. I know that your daughter does forgive any perceived wrongs- I know that it is the holiness that she is to forgive and to love you. I hope you know that beyond a shadow of a doubt.
We are all doing the best we can with what we have. Thank you for blessing all of us by following this calling to “teach” the world and by sharing your truth and story with others. My prayers are that you continue you to act justly, love mercy, walk humbly with your God. Blessings to you and yours.
Rhonda T.
Charlotte, NC
July 12, 2011
First, my deepest condolences on the loss of your daughter. Second, you are to be commended for your work. Thank you for doing it, for speaking out to those who spew hate in the name of God. Down with Dobson!
jill
las vegas, nv
July 9, 2011
i think what you are doing is amazing. i’ve always disliked how people use the bible as a weapon & alter their interpretation to back their own hateful opinions. keep moving strong, i’ll always support equal rights, love one-another movements!
Maura Donnelly
Santa Clarita, CA
July 7, 2011
God bless you for all that you do!
James
New Mexico
July 6, 2011
Bless you all.
Tara
Newburgh, NY
July 6, 2011
Thank you for this ministry, Its a valuable lesson us conservative Christians need to learn. Acceptance of my bi-sexual daughter was tough for me but i did from the very beginning and she has been a stronger teen because of it. She is almost 16 and has a really nice girlfriend. I pray one day that my daughter’s witnessing will also bring her to Christ. thanks for reinforcing my belief to stick behind her.
Mark Trumphour
Akron, Ohio
July 6, 2011
What to say, I’m a gay man that is loved, but still after 20yrs not accepted. My parents still donate to Focus on The Family, it especially makes me ill after seeing For The Bible Tells Me So. I AM a born again Christian, but until I find a church that is FULLY gay accepting and affirming, my prayers and my relationship w/ God will be just between Him and me, and that is sad, because this I know in my heart of hearts, the church is wrong and is pushing so many away and causing some to end their own lives.
CANDY
NEW MEXICO
July 5, 2011
GOT NETFLIX FOR THE FIRST TIME AND I’M WATCHING THE DOCUMENTARY YOU SPOKE IN ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER. AND I’M STRAIGHT TO THE WEBSITE. THANKS FOR YOU BEING ”OUT” ABOUT WHAT REAL LOVE IS. LOVING MY WIFE WAS MY PATH GOD WANTED ME TO TAKE. I WISH I COULD TELL YOU HOW AND WHY HE DID THAT. I SHOULD WRITE A BOOK.
Stephanie Smith
Troy IL
July 2, 2011
I am currently watching you on The Bible Tells Me So.
L.Monte
USA
July 2, 2011
I have learned in life that the bible has so often been interpreted for different agendas.
It is so important that people research for themselves and remember the culture and time the bible was written.
It amazes me how people listen and make judgement against others because of an organization , a friend, or a group wtihout the proper research.
My parents have always taught me to researched and to not judge a book by its cover.
Because of my parents teachings, I will not allow myself to judge anyone or try to change anyone.
I very much dislike those that feel they must condemn, judge, change, ridicule and hurt others just because.
I am disgusted with the hatred in our world. Let it be hatred towards, women, people of color, sexuality, obestity, etc., it is wrong.
We need to learn to live and accept everyone’s differences because no two human beings are alike. There is no perfection only differences. God is the only perfect!
I believe when we all die and go to heaven God will ask us: was it worth it – all the hatred? Look, you are all here together, to love one another because the greatest commandment of God is to do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
I commend your work, your tiredless efforts and will certainly talk about the film “For The Bible Tells Me So”. Your daughter is smiling down at your hard work. God Bless you and your family.
Live, Love, Laugh and all that there!
Laura Farmer
Salem, Oregon
July 1, 2011
The Bible is a tool for life, not a weapon! God Loves ALL of US!
Steven Bigden-Russell
Chicago
June 28, 2011
Hi Mary Lou!
I watched the video last night and I must say I cried my eyes out. I am a gay man — a child like Anna — whose father has rejected him. Twenty years later, I am yet to have resolution with my father and last night I found myself wishing he could understand, but have accepted in my heart that will be no reconciliation until he is able to see me as a normal, healthy man, in a healthy relationship, with three wonderful children of my own.
I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you feel with the lose of Anna, but am so impressed that you set out to learn about her and her life, and make a positive change in the world. God bless you in your work. It is a ministry like yours that will help the children and families of the future, so hopefully children like Anna, or me, won’t have to endure what we do because of misunderstandings. I would love to come and listen to you speak, so please add me to your mailing list if you are ever in the Chicago or Milwaukee area. 🙂
God Bless you!
Vicki Hoss
winston-salem, nc
June 27, 2011
My son is gay, and as tough as it was to process that information, I knew that it was not a “choice,” Luckily my pastor was a wonderful person to talk to to help me come to terms with it. I only wish all pastors were as loving.
Goldalee
NY, NY USA
June 21, 2011
God Bless you, and thank you!;) Gratefully, Goldalee
Mark Perka
Fall City, Washington
June 1, 2011
The efforts on this page will save many from what I had to go through. Bless You.
Nina Hagen
Berlin
May 30, 2011
Your Love did not fail , Mary Lou ! and it never will !! we all come to this earth to be found by Christ , to find Christ , to confess Christ and to become christlike ,., so many more people will root out Homophobia forever and live the LOVE , that never fails ! thank you for this wonderful T.E.A.C.H.-ministry!
Dave Moreton
London UK
May 30, 2011
I also lost my 15yo son to suicide in 2000. My heart goes out to you and i thank God for what you are doing now. Your love is far reaching and is healing many people.My charity is peachy me uk and my sons memorial page is douglasmoreton com
Many LGTB have been hurt by the church, but thank God that there are also many like you in the Church that show his love and acceptance.
My prayers are with you.
René
Minneapolis, Minnesota
April 18, 2011
I’m sorry you didn’t get to tell your daughter you loved her. Somehow I sense, and hope, with your new line of work you’ve saved a couple of lives or at least helped make quite a few lives better. May the Universe bless you with more strength to do more good.
mindy bachrach-fluitt
bakersfield ca
April 18, 2011
thank you for doing this, we appreciate it and wish my wife’s mother who is an evangelical minister would spread this word as well as you do.
Cyndie Drury
Central Iowa
April 13, 2011
I attended your talk last night in Ames. Thank you so much for sharing your moving story. I’ve been looking forward to hearing you speak for months. I had invited a friend, who is a conservative Christian literalist. She came, she appreciated all that she heard, except that she thought the movie was biased. She says she still believes gay is a sin, but at least she came, and now we can continue our conversations from a starting point. She is praying for me to see the truth. I am praying for her to see the truth. I wonder whose heart God will see fit to change. Thank you for your words of encouragement and wisdom!
Terry
Arkansas
April 1, 2011
Thank you
Clo Miller
California
December 11, 2010
I first learned of you when I saw you in the documentary “For the Bible tells me so” then again when I was desperatly searching for counsel and found your email address on a website. I asked you for help and you’ve given it to me. You helped me and I know have helped my faith to be restored. I know God loves me. And I know he brought me to you so that I could find him again. Thank you so much.
Pastor Jerry Cook
Fayetteville, AR
November 26, 2010
Our prayers are with you. The Lord continues to bless in Fayetteville, we have moved our services to St Martins Chapel on the campus of UA. Hope we can have you soon. His and Yours, Jerry
Kara Carneal Fogle
Maine via Kentucky
November 9, 2010
I have several gay family members but also several intolerant members who are even closer. I try to explain God’s Love teaches us not to judge & if they truly believe Homosexuality is a sin then according to God the fact that I am overweight is equally a sin, neither worse nor less but equal. They are stuck on the notion of Homosexuality being an abomination. I recently watched the documentary “The Bible tells me so” where you spoke of your daughter’s struggle. I am hoping by sharing this docu. w/my family some minds & hearts might be opened! God’s Blessing on you & your Ministry & I ask for prayer’s for wisedom & understanding for my family. Thank you for your story as it relates so closely w/my family & the religious beliefs we also have. Thank you again!! Much Peace & Love, Kara Carneal Fogle
Jeff Brossard
Springfield, MO
October 24, 20
I so enjoyed meeting you both in Springfield this past week.
Linda Herrera
California
October 11, 2010
THANK YOU FOR BEING BEAUTIFUL ANGELS FLYING AROUND AND DROPPING BLESSINGS OF HOPE IN OUR LOVELY WORLD!
Shelly McCarty
Las Vegas
September 8, 2010
I read about you a few years ago and was very touched. My family, thankfully, embraced me when I came out but as a social worker, I know of other gay/lesbian people who’s family did not. I now work with teenagers and recently had one come onto my client list who’s mother threw her out of the house for being gay. I am sending mom and relatives your story in hopes they will see the Light. Thank you for making a difference.
keijo
sweden
August 24, 201
God is good for us believer in Jesus and our life with health and glean from sin will be great the light in this the world who will enter into everalsting fire wíthout Jesus and salvation, thanks and bless and pray, your brother in many troubles sometime, keijo sweden
Jeff Sykes
Charlotte NC
July 12, 2010
I wanted you to know that I’m praying for you. Your story really touch my heart and blessed me. Thank You for all that you are doing to educated people on the truth. Once again Thank You and my God continue to Bless you. Jeff
bearinthewoods
Pueblo, CO
July 11, 2010
I first read an article about you in People magazine November 19, 2007, keeping the article since then, and I just last month had the courage to come out to my very religious parents- 3 years later. They still love me and are keeping communication open with me, but make it clear that they believe my buying a house with my partner and five year old is a mistake and the lifestyle is a sin. This is what I have been taught all my life and struggled with. I still love God and it is so free to be honest with my parents and sister now. I am going to send my family a link to your website. Thank you so much for your ministry and sharing your story. Smiles, Bear
Cubby Fitzpatrick
new paltz, ny
June 16, 2010
I am sorry for your loss, and totally identified with your daughters fears. I had the courage to tell my mother while we were both drinking, and my journey of closeted and inherent homophobia was a force in my alcoholism. In recovery now for many things. I wanted to tell you how great an impact your testimony had for me and my spiritual growth. I am so happy that I was able to listen to your truth and feel your love. Thank you so much for what you are doing. I truly admire your commitment toward educating us all. Respectfully, Cubby Fitzpatrick
Lamar Samples
Brunswick, GA
June 14, 2010
May God bless your life and ministry!
Jane Joseph
New York
June 14, 2010
Thank you.
samus1818
San Francisco, CA
May 28, 2010
I want to say that I was very touched by your story. But, most of all, I was moved by your positive change. Thank you so much for standing up for what is right! You are such an inspiration to me!
Hollie
Boise, Id
January 22, 2010
I’m so thankful for you. I just watched For The Bible Tells Me So- I am so glad you are out there telling your story. Thanks!!!
Jules
Chicago IL
December 26, 2009
Hey why miss an opportunity to say it again-you guys are fantastic and please keep on doing what you do. It has helped so many including me in ways even I am not aware of. Anna is so proud I am sure.
Brian
Tempe, AZ
November 30, 2009
I think it’s great what you guys are doing. I think most straight people need to be educated about the consequences of homophobia.
Sarah Madden
Arkansas
November 9, 2009
You give me hope that one day my family can change their hearts and minds about me and my lifestyle. I watched For The Bible Tells Me So, and then asked my parents to watch it as well. Their response was to give me photocopies of the scriptures in the bible that condem me to hell. I want so badly for them to understand me and see the love I have for my partner of 2 years is real and that it is not wrong, that love is never ever wrong. You give me hope, and I thank you for that.
Jenny
Austin, TX
November 8, 2009
Mary Lou, thank you for allowing your heart to be changed through the life of your sweet daughter, Anna. Your changed heart will have enormous ripples. If only my Mother would have the same open heart you gained years back. I will not stop praying for her. Anna’s story has touched me and God has thankfully shown me there is more than just shame to be felt through all of this. Anna is a saint in my life.
Meredith Scott
Louisville, KY
October 29, 2009
I have seen too many friends be damaged by what the church teaches about homosexuality. Keep up the good work.
David S. Gates
Dallas, Texas
October 20, 2009
Thank you as you have given me my faith back. I am a gay man living in the “Bible Belt”
Rene
Brooklyn by way of San Diego
October 17, 2009
I saw you on the documentary For the Bible Tells Me So. I felt your story to be very compelling and am using it to talk to friends of mine in the Church who are intolerant to the glbt community. I myself am a bisexual Christian woman & have battled it back and forth for years. I felt like when I was in the Church I was straight, but outside of the Church I was a lesbian. I’ve finally come to peace with the fact that I am am equally attracted to both sexes and here I feel safe having a personal relationship with God. I wish that documentary talked more about bisexuality, but I understand that is a whole different topic in itself. I appreciate you and your husband for standing up for our community. Love peace and blessings.
Amy Rose
Greensboro, NC
September 27, 2009
Hi Mary Lou. I just wanted to say thank you. You’ve given me hope that my relatives who turned their back on me when I decided to marry another woman will one day see the truth. I also want to thank you for your honesty, it truly amazes me.
Jason Cozart
Chicago, IL
September 27, 2009
It so great what you have decided to do. At the age of 26 I am still struggling to accept myself as a “gay black man” to the point I have lost everything and currently in transitional housing in Chicago and trying to rebuild my life. I hope one day I can do the same and help others who struggle with coming out, especially the youth.
Diedra Levi
Little Rock
September 19, 2009
Your story stands out more than any in the movie. I love you both
Shannon
Oregon
August 31, 2009
Thank you.
David
Greenville, SC
July 31, 2009
When I heard your words in the movie “For the Bible Tells Me So”, I was really touched. “God are you sure that this is what you want me to believe?” That sentence alone expresses my change to accepting GLTB persons. I only want to serve God, and I think he has shown me the error of my ways.
Ara Lee Schuler
Phoenix Az
July 11, 2009
Thanks for all you do to reach out to people in the Lords name. its ok to be gay and god loves us as we are as he created all of us.
Stephanie Andrews
Austin, TX
June 23, 2009
Thank you so much for working to bring about healing and reconciliation within the LGBTQ community and the Body of Christ. Blessings and peace to you.
Richard
St. Petersburg, Florida
June 18, 2009
Everyone is on this earth for a reason, We all have a purpose and hopefully a legacy for others. You are an angel Mrs. Wallner. This is your destiny.
Erin
Denver, CO
June 9, 2009
I recently saw your story on For the Bible Tells Me So. I am so sorry for your loss, and yet the world is so blessed to have people like you determined to educate, preach love and tolerance and acceptance- this is truly Christ’s work. Bless you-
Kayla Klahr
June 3, 2009
Thank you. Websites like this show we are not alone.
Kandace
Conway, AR
June 3, 2009
I was moved by your story and your work. Thank you for sharing.
Jaime McLeod
Lewiston, Maine
June 3, 2009
Saw you on “For the Bible Tells Me So.” So sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Thank you for your courage and compassion. God Bless.
Robert Leininger
Baltimore MD
May 23, 2009
I just saw the movie “For the Bible Tells Me So” and was moved and touched by all of the personal stories. It’s terrible that there’s so much unnecessary hate in the world. Please keep up the good work of spreading tolerance and understanding.
Brittany Kusserow
New Zealand (formerly Indiana, USA)
May 12, 2009
Thank you so much for sharing your difficult journey in an effort to help others begin their own.
Bobbie Jo
Cleveland, Oh
April 25, 2009
It was so nice meeting you and your husband today at the PFLAG conference in Cleveland. Sorry I cried, but your story and how you are changing lives just gets to me every time. Hopefully I didn’t get too “hug-happy”. Thank you so much for all of the work you do, the two of you are a godsend.
Terri Morgan
Tucker, GA
April 23, 2009
What a story! I came out and met my partner as my mom was dying; I doubt that she would have ever accepted Alison as part of the family but we didn’t have that chance.Al and I are still together after 8 years. Please keep speaking out for US—-and how absolutely normal we are!
james fereira
portland, maine
April 16, 2009
dear Bob and Mary Lou: your story and your work is inspiring. You are the bravest people, and you demonstrate the true example of spreading the word of God’s love for everyone, through your ministry. I am so touched and so impressed. Keep up this important work and never let the fear and hatred of others stop you from doing what is right.
Mary Hanrahan
Tennessee
April 12 2009
Thank you for everything you do. You are brilliant, courageous human beings. I cannot thank you enough.
Akilah Adams
DC Metro Area
April 3, 2009
God is love and love is for everyone.Whosoever believe is Christ will be saved be grace.
Michael Merryman
Tulsa, OK
March 18, 2009
I am a youth worker in Tulsa, OK. I specialize in LGBT issues and facilitate a support group and healthy activities program for gay youth ages 13-21. I can be found at Youth Services 918-382-4429.
Bobbie Jo
Jacksonville, FL
March 17, 2009
I want to say a big thank you for you and the work you do. I came out to my mom in November of 2007. She is very religious, and was very much against my transitioning from male to female. We had some heated emails/discussions/arguments for quite awhile. Finally, I had enough, and I went searching on the web, and I found your website, and I pointed it out to my mom. She must have read your story, and looked at your site, because ever since the day I pointed this site out to her, she has been much more supportive of me. In December of 2008, she bought me a couple of beautiful blouses, and for my birthday in March of 2009, she gave me a very pretty set of earrings and necklace. Thank you so much for everything you do. Bobbie Jo
Gennee
New York
March 15, 2009
Mary Lou, I saw you in ‘For the Bible Tells Me So’. Praise God that you searched the scriptures for God’s guidance. Praise God for the wonderful work.
Andrew Meeker
bremerton WA
March 12, 2009
I am coming out of the closet and this site has helped
keijo
sweden
February 23, 2009
Joy and joy today for life are with us in Christ, let the light shine in this darkness time to joy and love from the Lord, thanks and bless and pray, keijo sweden
Katie C.
Fresno
February 22, 2009
I happened to discover this website by accident. Maybe God is answering my prayer. I am a lesbian. I used to have many christian friends. All of my experience had been nothing but pain and hurt. I had lived my life for a long time filled with anger toward christian community. But after i read your story and your mission, you have give me hope. Thank you so much for doing this for all the soul that don’t understand the truth.
Steph
bartlesville, ok
February 18, 2009
I really wish my mom and dad would be okay with me being bisexual, but i don’t think they will. they believe it’s a sin. I think what your doing is great. Thanks for doing what you do.
Susan Lande
Charlotte, NC
January 30, 2009
Thank you for your beautiful service. I am truly inspired.
keijo
sweden
January 27, 2009
“Contend. O lord t . ,with those who contend with me; fight against those fight against me.” Thanks to the Lord for this beautiful psalm write to joy us all and comfort in Lord and set our life to better hope and bold mind,thanks and bless and pray and win, keijo sweden
Victor Rollins
The Bahamas
January 22, 2009
I am just learning about your ministry on the film “the Bible tells me so”
Andrew Jane
Canberra, Australia
January 20, 2009
A message for Mary Lou, I have just watched For the Bible Tells Me So. What a stunning gift you are to GLBT people around the world. It is your expression of Grace that I know God thinks “now that’s what I’m talking about!!” While much loved, my Mum and Dad are struggling about me, even after nearly two years, but I will ask them to watch the DVD. I hope our paths cross one day. Kind regards, and no need to Bless, you already are. Andrew Jane.
Tina
PA
January 8, 2009
I’m 34. For 11 yrs I’ve been grieving the death of the love of my life. I also grieve the torture we went through as we grappled with or love and loneliness and what we were told by the church (which i grew up in- my fam is full of ministers) about homosexuality. We didn’t want to be gay in the first place! But, we loved and adored each other. Now, she’s gone. I think of her every day. I miss her.
My family tells me they love me and so does the church. but they still believe that homosexuality is a sin.
Nice people. Good people. Loving people. And they have no idea how much it hurts.
I feel cut off at my soul from almost everyone.
Today, I will just cry.
Victor L. Levan
Chattanooga, TN
December 20, 2008
Wow! You Guys are awesome! I am totally taken away with your work! Being from TN here we do good to plan a pride event, much less to get PFLAG involved. And the extra miles you guys have taken to get the word of LOVE out through TEACH, God Bless your Ministry. I hope that one day God will open doors up for me as He has for you, and that I will be able to be such a blessing to someone as you have been to me!
Renee Fannin
Yountville, CA
December 20, 2008
Thank you. You are our hope. I am a gay daughter of the South ( Tennessee). You are all of our parents and we need and love you.
Compassion and Civil Rights
SF Bay Area, California
December 19, 2008
I’m very sorry that you had to experience this devastating loss in order to see homophobia with more compassionate eyes. It is a violent act against the spirit and soul of one of God’s creations. When one stops to think about the contributions, love and beauty that “fallen gays and lesbians” could have brought to this world. it’s heartbreaking. Lives unrealized. The teachings of Jesus would lead us to leave such judgements in the hands of Our Creator. I am a lesbian and have experienced the pain of “conditional love” and rejections of “aspects of my life” (as a younger woman) because of Fundamentalist Christianity. and I know the challenges on both side of the “argument”. I know it’s difficult for those who believe in Fundamental Christianity. I’m afraid that belief system makes everyone – who is not “a believer” (i.e. in the same belief system) – an enemy to be distrusted. in partnership or under the influence of Satan. That makes me very sad. because there is no room for communicating or open connection when there is that kind of judgement and fear. Now, on some level, the fight has become a constitutional issue, with the passing of Prop 8 in California. I suppose for me that’s what it has boiled down to. believe what ever you choose, that is your right. but protect my civil rights, if you expect me to pay the same taxes as “a full fledged citizen”. I realize your quest is a spiritual one. Thank you for being willing to look at your perspective and being willing to follow the unique path God has created for YOU. Many of us who are gay/lesbian have had to do that all our lives. It takes courage. And sometimes it hurts. But it’s worth every moment.
Valerie Schaeffer
Shartlesville, PA
December 19, 2008
I’m sorry you lost your child. I am a gay daughter.
Rachel Regan
San Francisco, CA
December 19, 2008
My wife and I just watched For the Bible Tells Me So and were so moved by your piece in the film. Thank you for your bravery in telling your story; you are a truly inspiring woman. You now have two more surrogate daughters in San Francisco.
Many warm blessings to you and your family, Rachel Regan
Danny K.
Chicago, IL
December 5, 2008
Thank You so much for the support and hope you give us all! I am a God loving, Gay Man, I see so much of the hate and use of the Bible to justify the hate. I am sending a copy of the video to my parents, in the hope that they will open there eye’s !!!
keijo
sweden
November 29, 2008
And Jesus gave orden that go into all the world and preach this gospel to the poor,and let us obey this and win and heal and the bibels in our right hands care, thanks and bless and joy and pray, keijo sweden
Stewart Lyons
Houston, Tx
November 24, 2008
I am interested in doing some work for an organization like this one. Please let me know how I can help.
Deb
canada
November 7, 2008
I was so moved by your article on your daughter. My son came out to us as well and has been through alot with how he has been treated by some family members and people he thought were friends never mind just society as a whole. You are doing a great service by educating people and “christians” as to love and not to “judge”. YOU are making a difference and in turn you are certainly honouring your daughter.
Jacqueline R.
Beach Park, IL
November 5, 2008
Mary Lou,
I recently watched FTBTMS on DVD and was so moved by your story. My youngest brother came out to our family 15 years ago, and I have always been so grateful to my parents for being as open minded and accepting as they were, as we know lots of GLBT people who were not so lucky, and I have seen first hand how incredibly difficult that can be for them. The courage that you show in telling your story is remarkable and was so incredibly moving to me, that I just wanted to write and compliment you on the wonderful work you are doing now. The more hearts that are opened and people who are educated the better things will be for the GLBT community as a whole. Thank you so much. May God bless you and the work you are doing.
Susan
Arkansas
November 4, 2008
I just finished reading your book “The Slow Miracle of Transformation” last night. I also had seen “FTBTMS” back in the spring of this year. I want to say that you have touched my heart in a very special way. I am a 47 year old lesbian who has only been out for 1 year and 2 months (yes, I count it all) and I can tell you that I deal daily with the feelings of regret of waiting so long to come out. But I also believe that God has a plan for my life and that His timing is perfect! I had my first same sex relationship at 17. It lasted 3 years, with the two of us keeping it a secret from everyone we knew. We weren’t really sure of who we were, (homosexuality was just not an everyday topic in the last 70’s) and we struggled daily with our love for each other. What broke us up was the church we were attending started talking about homosexuality, early 80’s, and comdemned everything we felt for each other. Our relationship ended and it wasn’t until 25 years, one 19 year marriage, a son and grandchildren later that I finally saw her again and felt the walls falling down around me and I finally with much prayer and soul searching realized who I really was and decided to no longer deny it. I came out to my husband, we are amicably divorcing, my family, “I am going to hell” and many friends. I have never been freer in my life. I praise God for giving me a chance to finally be myself. I look forward to what he has in store for me. Thank you again for this book and movie. God bless you!
Confused Dad
Rapid City South Dakota
November 3, 2008
Thank you for your courage to spread the Lords word! Although you don’t know me please pray for me as I work to learn to help my lesbian daughter understand the biblical side of being a lesbian and to help us understand that it’s OK!!
Esteleen Westby
USA
October 30, 2008
As christians we must stop the hating.
Phil Brady
Fairmount, IN
October 19, 2008
Thank you so much fo speaking to us at South Bend, Indiana Pride. The film was so moving I have purchased it to go with “Anna’s Songs”. God bless you and give you peace, dear Sister in Christ!
Cheryl Pirtle
Grass Valley, California
October 18, 2008
I just saw “The Bible Tells Me So” and was so touched by your courage in coming forward with your story. As a lesbian whose own mother struggled terribly when I came out to her due to her fundamentalist Christian beliefs, I very much appreciate your efforts to educate other parents about the need for acceptance of their GLBT children. I plan to purchase the DVD and ask my mother to watch it with me. You’re doing such important work! It’s a beautiful tribute to Anna. Thank you.
Jon Wallace
Denver, Colorado
October 16, 2008
I have been blessed by this website but especially blessed to know you. Mary Lou – you and Bob were there in attendance at my first ECWR conference and gave me a huge hug when I gave my testimony. That was six years ago and I can still feel your love! THANK YOU for your ministry of affirmation and love which has made a difference in my life. God’s Peace to you both and lots of love too!
David Walsh
Boston, MA
October 10, 2008
I am writing because of just seeing your wonderful documentary on cable TV. Please know you have the support of those of us from thr “straight” community as well as so many others.
Bradley Wilson
Johannesburg, South Africa
October 10, 2008
Dear Mrs. Wallner
I cannot begin to describe how moved I was when listening to the history of the relationship between you and your daughter Anna. I don’t for one moment hesitate to believe that Anna would be thanking you right now – for what you’ve done can be considered genuinely remarkable. Being a gay child, I felt it very important to let my own parents know that my being gay was never their fault. I’m sure Anna would be telling you the very same.
You cannot directly blame yourself for what happened, as that is how history and society taught us to think. Trust me, as a white South African, I know how masses can be blinded – just look at nonsensical Apartheid, spearheaded in the past by one of the largest Christian churches in Southern Africa. You did what you felt was right at the time, based on how you were brought up to see things – be it at home, in school or in the church. However, it takes tragedies and a history of tragedies to make right the injustices of the past. You are doing (and have done) so much for the GLBT community, helping us break down age-old fallacies that still bite at our hearts. Anna would be so proud of you now.
In 2006, the Republic of South Africa became the fifth nation in the world to recognise same-sex marriages. This is thanks to all the hard work of people like you in breaking the barriers that religions, educators and governments have created over many centuries. I cannot thank you enough for all your efforts in helping us make the world see that we are just ordinary human beings – and that is all we really want. Your plight has been seen by many people in South Africa. You can only imagine how many hearts your story has touched around other parts of the globe. You are truly an angel.
Jerry Seaman
Chicago, IL
October 8, 2008
I met you and heard your story a couple of months ago at the Center on Halsted in Chicago before your visit with Soulforce to the Willow Creek Church. Last week I saw the documentary, “For the Bible Tells Me So,” and learned your fuller story.
My daughter is a lesbian, coming out about 15 years ago to her mother and me. I was very proud of myself of my acceptance of her. But I was hiding from my own sexuality at that time. Five and one-half years ago at age 60 I came out as a gay man.
When I saw the documentary last week, I came in touch with my own internalized homophobia that I held onto for more than fifty years and wounds I inflicted on myself. Your story touched me deeply and helped me get in touch with my own suffering. I wanted to tell you that your telling your story and my connecting with your deep sadness about your daughter and your current life journey have had a profound impact on me spiritually and emotionally. I want you to know how your work has impacted me in the most positive way and in a way I’m not sure you could have possibly have been aware of when you embarked on your journey. I wanted to let you know about how you touched me and helped me with my own wounds. Thank you for your love and caring. You are truly blessing those who hear your story and the courage you show in telling it is palpable and inspiring in so many ways that you can not imagine.
Patrick H
Dallas, Texas
September 24, 2008
Thank you for being willing to take a stand for GLBT individuals. I am a Bible College graduate who had to walk the torturous path to self-acceptance that so many have experienced. I know that I am loved and cherished by the wonderful God who makes no mistakes – my sexuality is but another part of His miraculous creativity expressed through me.
Anonymous
Montreal, Canada
September 22, 2008
Dear Mrs. Wallner,
I am a teenage girl who has been questioning her sexuality for years and I am coming to the realization that I may very well be a lesbian. I have also been a Christian for a while, but I was always bothered by the “gay” issues in the Bible. Well, God put the movie FTBTMS on my path, and I gratefully watched it. Of all the people portrayed in the movie, you are the one whose story has moved me most. The pain, the sadness, and the good that came out of your experience is simply amazing, and thanks to it, I am now happier and more comfortable than ever with both my sexuality and my faith. God bless you, you and your beautiful daughter are in my thoughts and prayers. Your mission is the true manifestation of Christ’s love to us.
David Whitten
Virginia
September 19, 2008
I visited your website after seeing Ms. Wallner in the documentary “For the Bible Tells Me So.” The whole documentary was fascinating, but I was especially struck by the calm, articulate way you have responded to such a a tragic set of events. Thank you for speaking out and for helping others find their way.
Merianne Lero
Lees Summit, MO
September 13, 2008
Thank you for turning your personal tragedy into something to help others!
Rick James
Denver, CO
August 17, 2008
Hi Mary Lou,
I came out about 6 months ago–about 6 months after my 40th birthday. That’s way too long for anybody to be in the closet. Needless to say, my family, with the exception of my dad and my younger brother, are struggling as very conservative Christians to understand and accept this in me. It is my hope and my prayer that one day my family will be able to stand with YOU in the realization that fear and ignorance (about ANY issue) only destroys. Thank you so much for your commitment to the GLBTA community! We really need you. I sure wish my mom could meet you.
Love,
Rick
melissa ortiz
Emmaus, pa
August 9, 2008
I am a bisexual christian and i want to say thank you for what your doing. I wish i could join you or start my own group like yours. Thank you!
Katie
Boston, MA
August 2, 2008
Mary Lou,
I just finished watching “For the Bible Tells Me So” and was moved to tears by your story. What an amazing thing you have done, transforming the tragedy of your daughter’s life into such important and blessed work. Thank you so much for the work you are doing. It is desperately needed, and deeply appreciated. Thank you, thank you.
Patricia
Mexico
August 1, 2008
I wanted to let you know, that you’re hard work is paying, and all the way to Mexico, there’s people being helped by your experience through the movie “for the Bible.”
jerre
oakland, ca
July 30, 2008
i’m watching “For the Bible Tells Me So” and i’m near tears. thank you so much for your courage and honesty. and your willingness to be open to God’s truth — which is GOD IS LOVE AND ONLY LOVE — is an inspiration. know, too, that your daughter LOVES YOU and is SO PROUD. like jesus, she gave her life so that you – and hundreds of other families – can live as you were meant to. with love at the root of all you do. god bless you and your daughter and all who join hands with you to bring peace and love to this life. thank you thank you thank you for your story.
Melissa West
Kentucky
July 16, 2008
I am in the process of coming out to some of the most important people in my life right now. It scares me with the reaction I might get. I have no worries that I am loved by them and will still be once I tell them about my lifestyle. I am concerned how shunned I may feel initially from their reaction. Your story has been very encouraging.
Linda Lathroum
Miami, Florida
June 26, 2008
I just saw the movie, “For the Bible Tells me So.” I want to thank you for sharing your story and for being so courageous. I know your daughter is so proud of you and your love and of everything that you are doing to help people like her. Your story fills me with hope and inspiration.
Angela Lepley
Pittsburgh, PA
June 26, 2008
It was such a honor to meet you in Pgh. Our talk gave me hope, direction, and peace. The love and acceptance and understanding I felt from you both was like a long, cool drink for a thirsty soul. Thank you so much; I will be in touch.
Grant Parson
Ontario, Canada
June 16, 2008
What an awesome book, really opens a persons eyes about being gay and a Christian.
Cara
New York
June 9, 2008
Hi Mary Lou! I would like to tell you thst I watched “For the bible tells me so” today. I watched it with my parents. For the first time I witnessed my mother cry and express herself. Your story was a real eye-opener. Coming from someone who is a lesbian and young, as Anna was, I can say that I believe she is watching over you. I believe she is witnessing all the amazing things you are accomplishing for the GLBT youth and community in general. God bless you and your family! You have opened my eyes more to realize that there are good people out there.
John Delmore
Louisiana
June 2, 2008
May God bless and keep your Anna and make His face to shine upon her. I think she is proud of you. God bless you.
Shawn M. Burchard
Denver City, Texas
June 2, 2008
Thank You for what you do. I watched the program “For the Bible Tells Me So”, on the Sundance Chanel, and was very moved by the entire content. My partner and I attend a church in the small town we live in and fortunately for us we are accepted and loved. I just want to say Thank You!!! God Bless You!!!
R M Wright
Newark, NJ
June 2, 2008
big hugs for your story! watching the documentary on Sundance. ty for all your good work! your daughter has a wonderful legacy in your love
Bridget McMahon
Sebago Maine
May 29, 2008
Your mission is so important to society
Julie
Alaska
May 27, 2008
Thank you for writing this book! I recently “came out” as a christian and am going to give your book to my mom.
peter mcguire
elkin, nc
May 20, 2008
just saw “For the Bible Tells Me So”. Want to thank you for your ministry and your efforts. While I know nothing will bring your daughter back, I want you to know that as I reflect on your journey, I believe your efforts have brought her death a greater meaning.
Jim Birks
Stratford CT
May 1, 2008
I am a hard right bible beliving christian, but as such a sinner! and with bisexual ideas. I met a shemale who said “I love you” which changed my world! I love him too and was confronted with a spiritual resolution. We are commanded to love one another, do I love him some of the way? Obviously love is all the way. The still small voice said “See am am even here in this corner of th e world” I pray through love he will see and belive too! Thank you for your message
David Schaffner
Long Beach, CA
April 30, 2008
Thank you Mary. You are proof that true love can change a heart. I went to Falwells school in the late 70’s. It was at 36 years old I finally faced my sexuality honestly. I gave myself two years to self destruct and die by living life on the edge with total apathy. My religion almost killed me… God reached me. I am now happier than I could have ever imagined. I kept the baby (Jesus) and through out the dirty bath water. I am hoping I can get my Mom to watch “For the Bible Tells Me So”. I’ve been with my partner for almost 10 years and she is too uncomfortable to visit me. You and your ministry are in my prayers! All my love, David
Raymond Bell
San Diego
April 15, 2008
Thank you again for speaking at Log Cabin in San Diego. Your willingness to drive to San Diego shows your devotion. I enjoyed are chat. I hope you you had a safe trip home.
Tom aka Ramble Redhead
South Bend, IN
April 8, 2008
I think what you are doing is so wonderful and it was an honor to talk with you! I wish you all the very best!
Freya Spencer
New Carlisle, OH
April 8, 2008
Thank you. May God Bless and Keep you!
Barbara Fischer
USA
April 5, 2008
Thank you.
Jessica Crawford
Mount Pleasant, MI
March 31, 2008
Hello! I am so excited that my logo was picked in the deviantart icon for change contest! I’m so glad I could help out! You are doing such a wonderful thing. I myself am bi and it’s great to see people that actually care. My parents were shocked when I told them but they are learning to accept it. I am worried that my girlfriends parents won’t react in the same way. Thank you for all your hard work! It’s people like you that make the world a better place!
Mitchell Gold
Hickory, NC
March 27, 2008
Thank you for helping to make the world a more comfortable place for EVERYONE. We must continue to educate religious leaders and congregants who misuse their religious beliefs. They are not authentic Christians or patriotic.but you are(!).
Mary Mathews
North Babylon, NY USA
March 23, 2008
I read your article in People magazine, which I don’t read that often anymore, but i’m glad i saw this one. I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter’s death. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Lona Lundgren
Chicago
March 22, 2008
Keep doing what your doing!
Barb Glidden
Wisconsin
March 19, 2008
Dear Mary Lou,
As a member of PFLAG and mother of a gay son, I have now seen FTBTMS three times and am actively getting it shown in communities through church groups. Your message is so honest and important. Thank you for living your new mission.
Barb
Scott Martin
texas
March 14, 2008
Wow, I just watched For The Bible Tells Me So and am so impressed with your transformation and courage. My family has a similar story – my parents disowned my brother when he came out when he was 25. Wynn fought his suicidal tendencies for 17 before they got the best of him. While my parents way of dealing with it is to bury it and not relive it, I too want to understand every element of what went into my brother’s death. Kudos for facing this challenge and for spreading the word. I am very proud for you and know your daughter would be too!
Howard Carver
Long Beach, California
March 3, 2008
You are truly an inspiration to me! May God richly bless your efforts in EVERY way!
janelle
denver
February 24, 2008
i watched your story last night in the movie, “for the bible tells me so” and was moved to tears. i truly believe we are put on this earth to love and respect one another and you are doing just that. you are taking the lesson you learned from the death of your daughter and turning it into something beautiful and positive. her memory lives through your message and i bet she would be very proud of you.
i hope you come to denver again!
janelle
Paul David Tardiff
manchester nh
February 22, 2008
I want love to run the world and not hate. God Bless
Susan
Washington, DC
February 7, 2008
Dearest Mary Lou and Bob,
I found an article about your struggles in an old People Magazine a doctor’s waiting room. Thank you for your courage, your willingness to have an open mind, and for your love. I grew up Roman Catholic, and had a very difficult time accepting my own sexual orientation. Prayer and meditation, and, moving to the Lutheran Church, helped me understand that, indeed, God makes no mistakes, and that God loves me, as I am, just as much as my hetrosexual sisters and brothers. My family, close and extended both, have had their struggles with “us gay kids” {there are quite a number of us in our family!}, but through the grace of God, have come to accept our orientation. Your ministry is a blessing. What an incredible tribute to your dear daughter {who, by the way, is a beautiful soul, both physically and in her spirit}. I know she was with you in your struggle, and continues to be with you as you provide an accepting, loving place for the GLBTA community. Thank you for all you are doing, and thank you for your witness to those who insist on a vengeful, judgmental God who “hates” her/his Gay/Lesbian/Bi/Trans children. That’s not my God, and I’m so thankful that you are sharing the message that it’s not your God, either. Thank you, thank you, thank you. My prayers are with you.
Richard Haslam
Toronto, Canada
February 3, 2008
Dear Mary Lou and Bob,
I saw the movie’ For the Bible tells me so” and was so touched by your story. I am a gay man born in India and now living in Canada, when i came out to my parents, my Dad was speechless and left the room, my Mom held my hand and asked if I was happy, I replied ‘ yes’. She then said that it was okay with her and she would love and support me no matter what. I am truly blessed that my Dad did come around and said that his Catholic up-bringing taught him that homosexuality was wrong, but he understood and it was okay with him. My parents have both passed away, and I am so happy that I had their love and support ,and the support of all my 8 siblings. I know that through your loss you are doing an amazing ministry, please keep on doing what you are doing in loving memory of your precious daughter.You make her very proud. God bless and continued success with changing the world one soul at a time. BTW I ordered the DVD the very night I saw the movie, and intend to show it to all my family and friends.
Xavier Yager
Chicago, IL
January 29, 2008
Mary Lou & Bob,
You may remember me. I was one of the 200 of Mel White’s Soulforce members that met with Jerry Falwell, not so many years ago. I remember listening then to your story and being so broken hearted. Frankly, I was surprised myself that somehow I had not gone the way of your daughter and taken my own life. I came out at a late time in life and was rejected by my parents, siblings and friends. But you gave me hope that my parents might one day come around. Well they both did and I can say that I have a wonderful, full relationship with Mom and Dad. My father is getting close to death with his progressing illness, but I am so very glad that I had hope to endure until he once again welcomed me into his home. Being a Gay man and having the loving embrace of your parents is so very wonderful. Thanx for the work you are doing in Anna’s memory and know that your work touches so many lives and give hope and love and grace.
Love ya,
Xavier
Holleye Turner
Richmond, Ky
January 23, 2008
I just wanted to say what kind of a great blessing this website is. It has really helped me as an active member of the LGBT community. I am hoping that tihs will also enlighten my family as well thank you so much
Wendy M.
Concord, North Carolina
January 23, 2008
What a wonderful way to “right” a “wrong”. I found you while doing my own research. God will bless this.
Gayle Etcheverry
Los Angeles
January 20, 2008
I am so honored to know that you are doing this work. Thank you for all that you do! We at God Bless Humanity are so proud of you and thank God for you!
peace & blessings, Gayle
tracey
arkansas
January 18, 2008
thanks for being there
Deborah
Chicago
January 12, 2008
A Christian friend led me to your website. I wept when I read yours and Anna’s story, but felt so heartened and grateful that you are sharing with the world your transformation and acceptance. I am an out lesbian and have been in a committed relationship for 21 years. My daughter,36, who is a devout Christian, has rejected me. My heart felt a little less heavy when I found you and your message of love and acceptance. Your courage, tolerance and embracing of gays and lesbians is a gift to the world. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Mark Stephenson
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
January 11, 2008
Mary Lou and Bob,
WOW! I just saw For the Bible Tells me So in Toronto, Canada and was blown away by your story! It was a POWERFUL piece of film making and your story was so compelling and brought me to tears.
Thank you so much for your generosity and courage in sharing your story with the world! Your daughter did not die in vain. You and your husband along with your daughter’s spirit are helping thousands of people.
As painful as life can be, everything happens for a reason. You have truly found your purpose in life and that’s a beautiful gift from your daughter. Blessings to you as you spread your message of love, tolerance and acceptance.
Brynjálvur
Faroe Islands (between Norway and Iceland)
January 11, 2008
Thank you for existing, and for being you!:)
Liz Cota
Virginia
January 9, 2008
I think it’s great what you have done to raise awareness!
Catherine
the Great Northwest
January 8, 2008
I saw your story in People magazine while waiting for my chiropractor. I could relate on two different levels. 7 years ago my brother John took his own life. He was not gay but I understand, like you, the pain of losing someone you love to suicide.
I also happen to be a 55 year old lesbian who was brought up in a strict missionary baptist home. (with plenty of child abuse by the way). I tried to change and finally accepted that God doesn’t make mistakes and I’m fine just as I am. I’ve been with my partner now for almost 20 years. My family has done better than I would have expected – they tolerate and sometimes seem and have learned over the years to deal with it. Thank you for what you are doing and I’m sorry about the loss of your daughter.
Carly Armour
Cedar Rapids, Iowa
January 4, 2008
I just finished reading your book and was teary the whole time. I came out two years ago this month to my family and have a wonderful partner of two years. My family do not accept me as a lesbian nor recognize my relationship with my partner. Thank you for writing such an encouraging book! I only wish you could give a speaking engagement in Elberton, Georgia.
Elaine
Kentucky
December 26, 2007
What you have done in honor of Anna is working. Without a doubt your honesty and courage is a lit candle in the darkness of doubt. I am a thirty-four year old lesbian happily coupled for 8 years. Though I had dealt with my sexuality over a decade ago I did not then have the need to reconcile my homosexuality to my spirituality. I’ve always been a late bloomer! Or… maybe God just knows I can only handle one BIG thing at a time. Some how I got stuck in the muck! Yours was one of the beautiful strong hands that helped to pull me up, out and FREE! Hopefully our stories of recovery and good mental, spiritual health will empower you to continue your good work.
Kerry
Upstate New York
December 17, 2007
I am a lesbian and have been out for over two yrs now. I am 39 and have a mother who doesn’t speak to me & 2 older sisters who are trying to understand my sexuality but make very little effort. I was part of a church for 10yrs but left after I came out. God created all human beings but we as a society have segregated all. I live every day of my life to love every single human being as I want to be loved – unconditionally. God Bless you for your effort. I am emailing this website to my family and hopefully they will open their hearts and minds to see that I am me nothing more nothing less
Pam Buss Sherrill
Currently in Medford Oregon, but moving home to Eugene OR
December 13, 2007
Mary Lou- Dotti sent me a link to your article in People magazine! You are an awesome lady who we love dearly and think about often since meeting you in Colorado! We love you! Your adopted daughters!
Pam & Kathi
Donna Baggett
Rock Spring, GA
December 13, 2007
Thanks so much for your enlighten views.
Jessica Turner
Springfield, MO
December 8, 2007
It was nice to see such a wonderful artical on Anna, I was a friend of Anna. Met Anna when she first moved to Springfield. She was a great person witch a beautiful voice. I really miss listening to her sing.
Paula
Wisconsin
December 7, 2007
I recently read your article entitled “One Mother’s Tragic Lesson,” and I thank you for sharing your story. I can only pray that all “christians” are touched by your story to love and accept all humans for who they are, after all non of us are without sin and we have no right to judge another.
My eldest daughter is gay and I know that the one thing that I can do for her is to love her unconditionnaly. While there are times that it is hard to let “my dreams” for my daughter go I can find comfort in knowing that she is following hers. I love her, no matter who she is and who she loves. She is my hero!
Maria
Maryland
December 6, 2007
i can’t understand the hypocrisy of those who say “its not my place to judge” but then in the next sentence say “what they are doing is wrong”. its not your place to judge – so don’t. if you truly did love the ‘sinner’ then you would focus on them, you would say that you love them no matter and treat them with the same respect and kindness you always have. you wouldn’t focus on the sin. PLEASE see For The Bible Tells Me So and see how the church’s message of condemnation has hurt these people. one thing the bible is completely clear on is love: love thy neighbor. treat people as you want to be treated – would YOU want to be an outcast, have your safety threatened every day of your life, and be cut off from everyone you love for anything you do?
Please, PLEASE don’t let those people discourage you. you are doing wonderful work here. hopefully there will come a time where people will look back and shake their heads at how the church could possibly think this. i pray it is in my lifetime. i am planning to have children one day and you can bet i will be teaching them Jesus message of salvation, forgiveness and love.
Anna
New York
December 6, 2007
Your story and message MUST be heard in ALL churches, temples and places of faith. Too many Christians carry hatred in their hearts for gays. That is a waste. Thank you for your message.
Jackie Campbell
December 2, 2007
Thanks for following your heart and doing what is right. Your daughter would be proud
Thanks for stepping out and doing what is RIGHT. I am proud to call you friend. Your daughter would be proud.
john scott jr
Warrensburg Missouri
December 1, 2007
i am a gay male. i live in missouri. my family does not accept my life style. my mom is a very godly woman. she has turned it over to god hands and she told me she still loves me but i am never allowed to bring my parnter to any family events. that is what really hurts me the most. maybe you could send me some stuff that helped you get through it when u found out about your daugther. i am also sorry for your loss
Deb Theriault
South Portland, Maine
December 1, 2007
I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your story in “For the Bible Tells Me So”. Our church (First Congregational UCC) rented it for a community showing last night. It was very well attended (approximately 200 people). As an openly lesbian Christian who has attended this church all my life (baptized there in 1965!) and who, after coming out to the congregation some 10 or so years ago, has received tremendous love and understanding, I felt it was very important to bring this film to our church so that other gays and lesbians could see that a meaningful spiritual life is possible if they want it. I am very fortunate to live in a city with a non-discrimination ordinance with a pretty good population of gay and lesbian folks. The State of Maine also passed a non-discrimination law a few years ago.
You have my deepest sympathy on the death of your daughter. I’m so glad you’ve created TEACH ministries as a way to help others; what a blessing to other gay and lesbian children. I’m sure it’s been very hard to change beliefs you’ve held for so long. God bless you.
P.S. I’ve been to your beautiful state; my favorite cousin lives in Maumelle with his family. If you ever find yourself in my beautiful State of Maine, please let me know; I’d love to show you around!
Destini
Arkansas
November 28, 2007
I read about you and your website in the newspaper while I was in class last week. I think it’s great that you’ve dedicated your life to teach others. My parents are very religious, which is part of the reason that i’ve yet to come out to them. If only they knew what you know. God Bless
E. Bauer
NC
November 26, 2007
Thank you! Amen
Carolyn Brown
Visalia,CA
November 26, 2007
My 22yr old daughter suicided Jan 18th 1996. She was a beautiful & talented successful Fresno state basketball player in her 5th year. She confessed she was a lesbian May 1995. She was tormented by shame. She left a suicide note that said she could not stay in a world where she was so successful &, now she felt she was a failure.
I read your story & felt your pain. I miss Kari so much & would do anything to change the world that she felt rejected her. The God I know is a just & compassionate God.
Anna Escamilla
Austin, Texas
November 26, 2007
Your hearts are so full of love, I can feel it just from reading on your website! May you receive the love you need to guide through this very important work!
Heather
New York State
November 25, 2007
I read your article in People Magazine and I was in tears. I was so happy that someone understood. I have been a Christian all my life and have just in the last couple years found myself confused about who I am. I find myself thinking that I am or at least that I could be and questioning what God would say to me. I just want to be accepted and also not to have to hide who I am for the rest of my life. I am so sad for you because of what happened to your daughter but I know she would be proud of you. As I read your article, I began to identify with it because I am afraid if anyone in my family were to find out what I have been thinking, they would totally not really hate me, try to change me and definately not accept me for who I am. I am so glad you are out there to educate people and just to travel and let people know what happened to you and your family. God Bless!!
Jenny B
Florida
November 25, 2007
Thank you for your work. Despite what someone personally believes about homosexuality, one thing is always true–Christ’s love knows no bounds.
Darlene
San Jose California
November 24, 2007
Your story and truth is what changed me to hear with my heart the damaging messages of homosexuality being sin, and a choice. I used to preach that also, until God spoke his unconditional love to my heart! The verses that are quoted against the gay community are taken out of context. I long for the day we stand before Christ and Know he is in the business of saving us, not condemning us.
Michael Menhennitt
Seattle, Washington
November 24, 2007
My Mother and I have a relationship that parallels Mary Lou and Anna’s. However, I am, nor have I ever been suicidal, and my Mother and I have come to a sort of truce, in recent years. I believe my Mother would still benefit greatly from reading Mary Lou Wallner’s book.
Margo Richmond
United States
November 24, 2007
God bless you! Thank you for being a prophetic voice for us gay women and men who have struggled with the church’s condemning voice in the world while also knowing assuredly God’s undeniable calling in our lives. May God’s grace, power and wisdom be with you as you shaare this important message of hope and unconditional love.
Quiet Mouse
November 21, 2007
I so hope that you have the strength and encouragement to continue with your compassion and teaching. There are so many who need to hear your story and understand. I respect your decision to leave the not only hateful but hurtful comments although they anger and sicken me. How these people can claim to be christian when they insist on judging and condemning people simply for being different.
I knew in my teens, as I am sure your Anna did, that something was different about the way I felt. But raised Baptist, I denied what I felt. Luckily for me, when I came out in my 40’s, my family including my own children, were supportive and loving.
To those of you who think I made a “Choice” to be this way. Why?? Who in their right mind would CHOOSE to love someone who the world says they shouldn’t, to be in a relationship that must be hidden from the world unless you want to risk your own safety by facing all of the hate in this world? I wouldn’t choose this lifestyle, but I will no longer deny it, and I won’t let the “christians” of this world tell me that God doesn’t love me or that I will burn in hell. I am a daughter, I am a mother, I am a lesbian, and I am a child of God!
Claudiai
November 21, 2007
You are an amazing person. I grew up in two very strict households: my mother is Catholic and my father Muslim. While I was taught that homosexuality is a sin, I no longer believe it. I believe that we are ALL loved in the eyes of Allah and God. I applaud your efforts and will spread your wonderful message. I want you to know that I know there are many people out there who do not understand that religions should not teach to hate or fear, but to love. Thank you so much for being an inspiration. No matter what anyone tells you, you are doing the work of Jesus, as he stated to love thy neighbor.
May God Bless you. I know that your Anna is very proud of you. 🙂
Greg Clark
New York, New York
November 20, 2007
I was raised in a fundamentalist (GARBC) baptist home. Deep down I knew who I was but denied it in an effort to conform to what was “right”. After four children and a ruined marriage God helped me to finally accept who I really was. My parents reluctantly but lovingly accepted “reality” when I finally came out in my mid thirties. How sad it is that I didn’t have the confidence in their love to truly embrace my inner self. My hope and prayer is that other christian youth will not have to suffer through years of pain and denial. Your honesty and candor are an absolute inspiration. PRAISE THE LORD for parents like you!
Erin Hardiman-Slayden
Nashville, Tennessee
November 19, 2007
Thank you so much for what you are doing. You have no idea what this ministry means to me and other gay and lesbian Christians who hope for a world in which love triumphs over hate and compassion and acceptance outlast fear and persecution. You give me that hope. The love you showed to your daughter by searching for the answers yourself is an inspiration and a testament to the very nature of love and parenting. My prayers are with you. Never give up. Your ministry is changing lives.
Evelyn Hilliard
Round Rock, TX
November 19, 2007
God bless you
Crystal McDaniel
Little Rock, AR
November 19, 2007
Your story is one of courage. The message of God’s unconditional love isn’t one of option, but of mandate. I think the more people hear stories such as yours, it will force them to look at themselves and ask, “Am I loving and seeing people as God would?” Keep up the good work.
Olivia Maranto
California
November 18, 2007
I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate what you are trying to do. TEACH Ministries is a wonderful project and I am very grateful that you do this. I am a Christian and a lesbian college student. I recently came out to my mother, and her reaction was pretty much like yours, although it was in person. I would love to show her this website, and maybe I can build up the nerve to someday. Thank you for your kindness.
Sandra La Tona-Bianco
Palm Harbor, Florida
November 18, 2007
God Bless you and Keep you safe in the mighty work that you do.
Jeri Simmons
Midwest
November 18, 2007
As someone who grew up on a fundamentalist church and the mother of a gay child, I would suggest those of you who believe it is a ‘choice’, to wake up tomorrow and ‘choose’ to be attracted to those of the same gender. Make that choice, and see how it goes. Many parents such as myself, suspected our child was gay from a very early age, which would suggest God is either unbelievably cruel, or it is an inherited trait. I know my child was born this way, and I also know Jesus did not condemn it. I pray for those fundamentalist ‘Christians” who spew hatred and intolerance, for they are the ones (like the mega-church minister in Colorado) who are usually most conflicted with their own sexuality. God bless this ministry for telling the truth and spreading God’s LOVE.
John A, Murphy
Oklahoma
November 16, 2007
God bless you. Never ever Give up. You are indeed speading truth.
Bobby Petty
Frisco Texas
November 16, 2007
I have parents that don’t accept me and my partner over to their home at all. They are southern baptist and it is so sad.We have been together for nine years and never been invited to a Christmas or Thanksgiving because they don’t accept our relationship because it is biblically wrong. I do talk to them and we have somewhat of a relationship but I know they would love my partner. It is never discussed around holidays what we are doing or not doing. I don’t know what to do but really miss my home with my family.