Teach Ministries: To Educate About the Consequences of Homophobia

Mary Lou and Bob WallnerTo those of you who sign our guest book, please keep in mind that it is just that, a GUEST book. When we sign a guest book, it is usually in a person's home, thanking them for their hospitality, or it may be in a church simply giving our name and address. If you have an opposing view to our view about homosexuality, please feel free to contact us directly. We want our web site to be a safe place for those who may be hurting. Thank you so much!
Mary Lou and Bob

  October 10, 2008
I am writing because of just seeing your wonderful documentary on cable TV. Please know you have the support of those of us from thr "straight" community as well as so many others.
  October 10, 2008
Dear Mrs. Wallner
I cannot begin to describe how moved I was when listening to the history of the relationship between you and your daughter Anna. I don't for one moment hesitate to believe that Anna would be thanking you right now - for what you've done can be considered genuinely remarkable. Being a gay child, I felt it very important to let my own parents know that my being gay was never their fault. I'm sure Anna would be telling you the very same.

You cannot directly blame yourself for what happened, as that is how history and society taught us to think. Trust me, as a white South African, I know how masses can be blinded - just look at nonsensical Apartheid, spearheaded in the past by one of the largest Christian churches in Southern Africa. You did what you felt was right at the time, based on how you were brought up to see things - be it at home, in school or in the church. However, it takes tragedies and a history of tragedies to make right the injustices of the past. You are doing (and have done) so much for the GLBT community, helping us break down age-old fallacies that still bite at our hearts. Anna would be so proud of you now.

In 2006, the Republic of South Africa became the fifth nation in the world to recognise same-sex marriages. This is thanks to all the hard work of people like you in breaking the barriers that religions, educators and governments have created over many centuries. I cannot thank you enough for all your efforts in helping us make the world see that we are just ordinary human beings – and that is all we really want. Your plight has been seen by many people in South Africa. You can only imagine how many hearts your story has touched around other parts of the globe. You are truly an angel.

  October 8, 2008
I met you and heard your story a couple of months ago at the Center on Halsted in Chicago before your visit with Soulforce to the Willow Creek Church. Last week I saw the documentary, "For the Bible Tells Me So," and learned your fuller story.

My daughter is a lesbian, coming out about 15 years ago to her mother and me. I was very proud of myself of my acceptance of her. But I was hiding from my own sexuality at that time. Five and one-half years ago at age 60 I came out as a gay man.

When I saw the documentary last week, I came in touch with my own internalized homophobia that I held onto for more than fifty years and wounds I inflicted on myself. Your story touched me deeply and helped me get in touch with my own suffering. I wanted to tell you that your telling your story and my connecting with your deep sadness about your daughter and your current life journey have had a profound impact on me spiritually and emotionally. I want you to know how your work has impacted me in the most positive way and in a way I'm not sure you could have possibly have been aware of when you embarked on your journey. I wanted to let you know about how you touched me and helped me with my own wounds. Thank you for your love and caring. You are truly blessing those who hear your story and the courage you show in telling it is palpable and inspiring in so many ways that you can not imagine.

  September 24, 2008
Thank you for being willing to take a stand for GLBT individuals. I am a Bible College graduate who had to walk the torturous path to self-acceptance that so many have experienced. I know that I am loved and cherished by the wonderful God who makes no mistakes - my sexuality is but another part of His miraculous creativity expressed through me.
  September 22, 2008
Dear Mrs. Wallner,
I am a teenage girl who has been questioning her sexuality for years and I am coming to the realization that I may very well be a lesbian. I have also been a Christian for a while, but I was always bothered by the "gay" issues in the Bible. Well, God put the movie FTBTMS on my path, and I gratefully watched it. Of all the people portrayed in the movie, you are the one whose story has moved me most. The pain, the sadness, and the good that came out of your experience is simply amazing, and thanks to it, I am now happier and more comfortable than ever with both my sexuality and my faith. God bless you, you and your beautiful daughter are in my thoughts and prayers. Your mission is the true manifestation of Christ's love to us.

  September 19, 2008
I visited your website after seeing Ms. Wallner in the documentary "For the Bible Tells Me So." The whole documentary was fascinating, but I was especially struck by the calm, articulate way you have responded to such a a tragic set of events. Thank you for speaking out and for helping others find their way.
  September 13, 2008
Thank you for turning your personal tragedy into something to help others!
  August 17, 2008
Hi Mary Lou,
I came out about 6 months ago--about 6 months after my 40th birthday. That's way too long for anybody to be in the closet. Needless to say, my family, with the exception of my dad and my younger brother, are struggling as very conservative Christians to understand and accept this in me. It is my hope and my prayer that one day my family will be able to stand with YOU in the realization that fear and ignorance (about ANY issue) only destroys. Thank you so much for your commitment to the GLBTA community! We really need you. I sure wish my mom could meet you.

  August 9, 2008
I am a bisexual christian and i want to say thank you for what your doing. I wish i could join you or start my own group like yours. Thank you!
  August 2, 2008
Mary Lou,
I just finished watching "For the Bible Tells Me So" and was moved to tears by your story. What an amazing thing you have done, transforming the tragedy of your daughter's life into such important and blessed work. Thank you so much for the work you are doing. It is desperately needed, and deeply appreciated. Thank you, thank you.

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